The IMCW Spiritual Friends (Pali: “Kalyana Mitta”) program offers you an opportunity to meet with local, peer-led small groups who share an interest in meditation and the Buddhist path. SF groups consist of six to twelve meditation students who are committed to supporting one another as they explore the practice of the dharma in their daily lives. Because these groups are small and meet regularly over an extended period of time, they allow for intimacy and sharing, discussion of how to keep the practice alive in daily life, and an experience of the heart of the dharma.
Applicants should have some basic insight meditation experience. For new practitioners, please visit our Beginning Practice page, find a class or Introduction to Meditation series, and develop a basic meditation practice before signing up for a group.
SF groups primarily focus on listening, both giving full listening attention to a member who is sharing but also deeply listening to one’s internal response. It is important that members commit to attending regularly, to continue practice between meetings and to skillfully use mindful listening and speaking.
Information about current Spiritual Friends groups will be continually updated on this webpage. Please apply for groups listed as “open” (needs additional members) or “forming” (needs members in order to start). Groups listed as “closed” (not seeking new members) re-open only very rarely. Please read the description for the group you are applying to join.
To request to join a group or to express interest in forming a new Spiritual Friends/SF group, please complete the Spiritual Friends/KM questionnaire.
Your questionnaire will be reviewed and the SF Coordinator will contact you if there are any questions. Placement in a group will be determined, in part, by what groups are “open” and by whether someone volunteers to facilitate and host the group.
Depending on your request and group availability, placement can take anywhere from several weeks to a few months.
If you would like to facilitate and/or host a KM group of your own, please contact Glen Harrison, our SF coordinator.
Spiritual Friends groups are intended to deepen your insight meditation practice, so please attend a class or an "Intro to Meditation" session and develop a basic meditation practice prior to signing up for a SF group telephone orientation.
Groups are facilitated by your peers and generally meet for 1.5-2 hours. Most group meeting start with a 20-30 minute silent meditation.
The meditation is often followed by a personal check-in by each member. The check-in may be specific to a dharma topic selected by the group or it may relate the dharma to the individual's life, practice, or experience in the moment.
Mindful discussion follows the check-in. Depending on the focus and agreements of the group, this might be discussion of a topic, or on themes, questions, or responses arising from the check-ins.
After the discussion, groups may include a brief "process time" for members to express how the meeting was for them.
Finally, a short sitting or loving-kindness meditation brings a sense of closure to the meeting.
Some groups have a special emphasis such as parenting, chronic pain and illness, addiction/recovery, meditative writing, health professionals, etc. (please see individual group description for details).
Monday or Thursday triweekly
If you have never attended a Spiritual Friendship group meeting please sign up to attend orientation so that you can be connected to an SF group. Please use the "Apply" link below and mention the date you are interested in attending orientation in the questionnaire comments section and a telephone conference number and invite will be emailed to you. All times below are ET.
Thursday, October 14, 2021, 6 p.m.–7:00 p.m.
Monday, November 22, 2021, 8:30 p.m.–9:30 p.m.
During the orientation we will go over the SF guidelines, listening instructions, sharing tips, Q&A and we will review the group you have requested to join. There will also be a short sit and share time at the end, so be sure to be able to participate fully.
TBD
If you facilitate a Spiritual Friends group meeting and would like to meet with other facilitators, please use the "Apply" link below and mention a couple of dates you are interested in attending in the questionnaire and we can post the date to see if others are available as well.
During the call we will go over the SF guidelines, listening and sharing tips, other facilitator related content and Q&A. There will also be a short sit and sharing time at the end, so be sure to be able to participate fully.
Sunday, 6:30-8 p.m., weekly
Tuesdays, 10:00 a.m.-12:15 p.m., twice per month
Meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice.
To begin meeting this group needs a facilitator and 8-10 participants to sign up.
Silent meditation and check-in, followed by group discussion.
Mondays, 7:30 p.m., monthly
Meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice. Focuses on Self Compassion in the service of advancing on the path of Insight (Vipassana) meditation.
Tuesdays, 7:30 p.m., twice per month
Wednesdays, 7:00-8:30 pm, twice per month
Appropriate for members who have at least 2 years of practice and a commitment to maintain a daily practice (even if that doesn't actually occur every day - it's the aspiration and intention that is important to us).
We start with a short check-in or mindful discussion about a book we've selected (15 min.), followed by a silent meditation sit (25 min.) and then a longer check-in related to our practice and mindfulness in daily life.
Tuesday, 7-8:30 pm, twice per month
2nd and 4th Monday
Tuesday eve, 7-9 pm, twice per month
Sunday, 1:30-3:30 p.m., 1st & 3rd week
This group is for and supports members with mood, attachment or anxiety disorders only in that we all have some experience with one or more of these concerns, allowing us to view any mention of them with recognition and acceptance. We don’t necessarily have mood, attachment, or anxiety issues as topics for our meetings, or read and share educational material about them. However we frequently discuss how our individual practice helps us with these and other challenges in our lives. Therefore, we are a normal Spiritual Friends group whose members have experienced, or are experiencing significant mood, attachment, or anxiety problems.
We use the IMCW SF meeting format: meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice.
Thursdays, 7-8:30 p.m., twice per month
Monday 7:30-9:00 p.m., twice per month
We start with a 20-30 min sit, do check-ins, and then discuss a dharma topic. Members rotate facilitating and hosting.
Sunday 7:00-8:30 p.m., twice per month
Not currently meeting
Monday nights from 7:30-9:00pm, twice per month
Wednesday, 7-8 p.m., 1st & 3rd week
Initial sitting, checking in and sharing, final sit. On the 3rd Wednesday, there is a Dharma talk after the initial sit.
Sunday, 6:30-8:30 p.m., 2nd & 4th week
We follow the typical process of a two-hour meeting, opening with meditation, then a check-in, then a topic reading and discussion.
Tuesday evenings, twice per month
We typically sit for 20 minutes, then have a period of sharing about our experiences with our practice followed by Dharma study and a concluding short sit.
Fridays, 11 a.m.-12:30 p.m., 2nd & 4th week
Retired/transitioning from the workforce: Retirement and transition can be a good time to connect with others. This change brings forth many new challenges for our ego and letting life flow as we adjust. We can share these challenges in a mindful way with support. Join us!
alternating Sundays, 4-5:30 pm ET or 7-8:30 pm ET
Meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice. The group meets both virtually and in-person, depending on the weather and the host.
For women only. Meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice.
TBD - Sunday afternoon suggested
Tuesday 7-9 p.m., monthly
Group time includes 30 minutes of sitting meditation, check-in, and discussion of readings. Appropriate for YLM alumni and meditators with 3 or more years of experience.
Alternating Wednesdays (TBD), 7:00-8:30 pm ET
Online meditation and check-in, followed by mindful discussion, group process time and final short sit/metta practice.
This group is not yet meeting. We need 4-5 more members and 1 facilitator to begin.
1st & 3rd Tuesdays at 8 pm ET
Sunday, 7-8 p.m. ET, 1st & 3rd week
Alternating Thursdays, 7pm ET
Alternating Wednesdays, 7:00-8:00 pm ET